Roster:

1. Gail (Choices- Music) 20th May

----Break 27th May: Discuss about holiday outing/blessing plans

2. Ariel (Choices-Tv/Movies)  3rd June

3. Elvie (Dating-Male/Female) 10th June

4. Su lin (Dating-Falling in love?) 17th June

5. Joel (Dating-When can i start dating?) 24th June

6. Mund (Family-Getting their act tog at home) 1st July

7. Heng Guang (Family- Inside a parent’s head) *forum

8. Kenn (Family- How to get them to say yes)

9. Joshua (Family- Communication)

10.  Alex (Family- Living with Siblings)

11. Alden (Life of Jesus)

12. Cher/ lish / Noel (Life of Jesus)

Guide for Lesson 2 of “Young Teens Aflame” – Fashion Parade

: Note that if possible try to split the boys/girls from the beginning of this lesson

Relax

1. Start off by getting them to think of a celebrity perhaps that they would like to dress
like?

-Instead of sharing their answer straight away, get them to do something like Taboo/
Charades so that the rest of the group members can guess the celebrity.
For eg. Tyra Banks (description could be like American next top model….)
Robert Downey Jr ( IRON MANNNN)



2. If they could get all their clothes from a particular shop anywhere in the world where
would it be?



3. Next get them to brain storm about a few issues

- Is it right for a Christian to follow trends?
- Are there right and wrong ways for a Christian to dress? (be it just going out/going to
church)
- How should you choose when it comes to what to wear?
(this links back to our first lesson on choice, we must be conscious of the reasons of
why we make certain choices)

Relate

• Share one high and one low point
• Pray for one another, and 2 other items from the church

PRAY FOR SERVICES
That the Word of God proclaimed on 06-May by Mrs Ng Moh Ying (8am, 10am,
11am), by Pastor Clarence Lee (TTB), and by Mr Patrick Chua (Mandarin) will bear
fruit & not return void to God; and that the Word of God being prepared for 13-May
by Rev Dr Kow Shih Ming (8am, 10am, 11am), by Rev Joel Yong (TTB), and by Pastor
Wendy Tay (Mandarin) will be God’s Word for God’s People even as we continue to
celebrate together God’s power in raising Jesus Christ from the dead.

Reach Out

• Have 2-3 persons share what they have done to Invest & Invite their friends/
relatives to Christ or TTB
• Thank God for the effort and pray for these friends/relatives to be responsive.

Receive

It is not wrong to follow trends but doing it blindly is indeed a problem.

Try to ask them to recall when we went through the choices lesson, what were steps
that were involved in making choices?

So lets review the 3 Cs




1. Consider the choice
-If they recall we looked at Gen 39:1-15 which described Joseph consciously making the
right decision, he knew exactly, why he said no to the pharaoh’s wife.
-Likewise for the clothes that we wear we should stop and think first before following
everything new that comes along.



2. Comparing to God’s word
- Have them turn to 1 Peter 3:3-4

(New American Standard Version)
3 Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold
jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the

imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

-The bible doesn’t say that it is wrong to try to dress well but in God’s eyes what is
important to him is not what you put on to make yourselves look good on the outside
but his concern is what is “beautiful” on the inside.
-We should not get caught up in spending too much time, energy and money on what
is not so important (our external looks) instead we should be trying to build up what is
inside. (eg. spiritual life, loving more..etc)




3. Choosing to be others centred

-Turn to 1 Cor 10:23-24 (NIV)
The Believer’s freedom
23 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have
the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. 24 No one should seek
their own good, but the good of others.

-So why is this important? I mean after all just what I wear it’s my choice and how
would it affect others?
-The verses here in Corinthians remind us that although we have the right to do
anything it might not be beneficial and constructive so instead our guiding principle
should always to seek the good of others.

-Leaders here you can lead them to discuss about the issues you think that might affect
your group more.




For eg.

1. Girls wearing skirts/shorts that are too short (stumbling their brothers in Christ if it’s
in church/ attracting the wrong type of attention)

Some believe that based on 1 Corinthians 7:4 (NIV)
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In
the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to
his wife.
-Even if we are not married, our bodies are the temple of God and also they belong
to our future spouses and if we flaunt it off now it is seen to be robbing your future
spouse taking what belongs to him/her and giving it to someone else.

2. Guys wearing branded clothes/accessories / getting tattoos

3. Being overdressed/ under dressed



Closing Thought:
There are a lot of different trend of thoughts out there about how we should be
dressing as Christians, be it when we head out or to church but we must always bear
in mind the 3 Cs, we need to consciously make a choice and this choice must be in line
with God’s word and it must ALWAYS be others centred.
Encourage them beyond looking at their outward appearance and to also remember
that God’s concern is with our inward beauty

Closing Prayer:
Maybe the youths can pray for one another over the struggles they might have and
over the things that they discussed and that ultimately in everything that they do or
dress in this case would bring honour and Glory to his name.



Done by Petrina

Hey Guys,

For tomorrow's lesson. Ok we wont actually be doing a lesson since that some of the kids are still in the midst of exams and others have just finished. So we will be doing something more relaxing.

1) Game:

Objective: To allow everyone know each other better

Items required: A pen and a piece of paper


How to play: I think i may have played with some of you before. Basically everyone has a piece of paper and a pen. Except for one person. Oh and someone has to be the game show host as well. The game show host would ask the chosen youth (lets say aaron) a question. For example, aaron, who do you think is the prettiest girl in sea king? Then the rest of the people playing would have to write down the answer that they believe aaron would write and aaron would also write down his answer (honestly i do want to know this answer) haha. Yeah then slowly one by one everyone has to reveal their answer. The person or persons with the correct answer wins one point. After this, the game show host chooses a another person and ask he or she another question.


Here is a list of questions i thought of, just in case

1) Dream Job
2) When did you have your first crush
3) If you could only bring 3 things with you to a deserted island what would that be
4) First person you would turn to if in need of help
5) Worst food or thing you have even eaten before
6) If you could have a super power what would that be
7) If there was one thing you could change about your parents what would that be
8) Your pet peeve
9) Three things you never leave your house without
10) One person you always wanted to meet


Oh and after the games, as Petrina has already smsed you guys. Please go into a time of sharing and praying.

Sharing about:

1) The inner motivation, why the youths, strive to do well in studies. And you as leaders would also have to share what is that inner motivation that makes you strive for good grades (Its not about the money money money)
2) A recent exam experience for the uni students, or any significant exam experience you had.
3) How you dealt with the stress/ expectations from parents and self?
For the above question number 2, you can give practical steps or like you know stuff like go for a jog these kind of things, but also more importantly share with your youths, how by God providence/ grace and his word has empowered you to deal and stand upon the stress and expectations


Finally pray. Best if the ratio could be 1 leader to 3 kids. It is highly encouraged to get your youths to pray for one another instead of doing the typical mass prayer. Like melissa and heidi can pair up, find out each other's prayer request, and then pray for one another.
I think its good to start young, to get the kids to be comfortable praying for one another.

Ok lets see how it goes tmr, thanks guys

Alex

Guide for Lesson 1 – Making Choices (Practical Issues, Unit 2)

Section Do List:

RELAX-

Tuner: Choices

How To Play:
Have everyone start at the centre of the room and move according to your commands.

Come up with 10 to 15 sets of choices and have the youths move in different directions for the different choices. E.g. “For those that chose x, take 1 step forward, for those that chose y, take 2 steps back”

Try to come up with clear cut choices like “Book or TV, Red or Blue, Prata or Mutabak, etc.”

At the end of few rounds, the youths will be all over the room.

Debrief:
All of us make different decisions. We make the decisions based on who we are. At the same time, these decisions also define who we are. Like the game, we make the choices because of our preferences, yet these choices also determine the unique positions that we are in at the end of the game.


15 Mins
RELATE

•Share one high and one low point
•Pray for one another, and 2 other items from the church 15 Mins
REACH OUT
•Have 2-3 persons share what they have done to Invest & Invite their friends/relatives to Christ or TTB
•Thank God for the effort and pray for these friends/relatives to be responsive.


10 Mins
RECEIVE Introduction
The following is a list of things that influences us in our daily lives. Rate from a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being having no effect, 10 being an overriding influence to everything in our lives.

Advertisement, Friends, Parents, Horoscope, Trending, Bible, Teachers, 9gag/reddit/TV/movies, books/mags/newspaper

We know that the list is nowhere being close to being exhaustive, and not all of influences are bad, but not all of them are bad either. The key of today’s lesson is to help us make the right choice to be able to witness those that God had placed in your lives...

Read: Genesis 39:1-15
1) Do you think Joseph considered the choice carefully or was it a snap, on-the-spot decision?
2) What is the scriptural reference for your answer?

Looking at Joseph’s example, there are three things we want to learn from his encounter.

a) Consider the choice
Reflect on the decisions you make daily, how many of these decisions are made consciously? When was the last time you decided to go to school, or come for cell, or hang out with your friends? Joseph could only make his choice after he stopped to consider his choice.

b) Compare it with the Word
Now that we’ve stopped to think about the choice, the next question will be what to think about. Do we apply the standards of the world? Do we take own identity/position/morals into consideration? Do we compare it with the Word and ask ourselves “What would Jesus do?”

Leaders please apply discretion for this point especially.

c) Choosing what will result in good
Now that our choices are informed, the hardest part always boils down to making the choice. The right choice is very often the hard choice too. It is up to us to make the decision and commit to it.
Would Joseph’s decision to say no have meant anything if he gave into the wife after her persistent pestering?

What about the times when all the options are equally bad/grey/good? Visit a sick friend vs studying for Exams; Committing time for devotions vs bible study; etc.. These are the situation where it calls for us to choose the decisions that will lead to the greatest good. I know that saying this doesn’t help with making up the decision at all. Rather, use this as a guideline for our choices. Very often, the best decision is not the one that is most “right” but the one that produces the most good.

Read: Genesis 39:16-20
3) What was Joseph’s “reward” for his choice?

4) Share about an instance, if it applies, when you got into trouble for doing the right things.

While, most of us know the story of Joseph’s success for the rest of his life. However, in this case we see that sometimes, in fact more often that we hope to be the case, making the right choice gets us into trouble. Yet, recognize that very often these “trouble” that we get into for doing what’s right, not the once that we deserve for doing wrong of course, are part of God’s plan. For Joseph, his jail time was his ticket into the pharaoh’s courts.

Closing Thought:
Read 1 Peter 4:1-11

Push your youths, ask the hard questions. Challenge them to commit all the choices in their lives to God above everything else.

Memory Verse:
1 Peter 4:19
“Therefore let those who suffer according to God's will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good."

Closing Prayers

30-45 Mins

Notes:
I prepped the lesson to be a single train of thought. This could be hard to pull off depending on the dynamics of your group. Do rephrase the questions/ Break up the lesson and resolve some of the issues first. Once again, I cannot emphasize this more, apply your discretion.
I tried to condense the material as much as possible for this lesson, do go through the lesson plan and pick out some questions that you can ask if you see fit. Also please do Read 1 Peter 4:1-11 in advance and prayerfully consider ways to challenge our youth. I feel that the key to the lesson here is not about teaching them to choose God, but rather committing them to choosing God.


Done by Zhan Feng :)

Heyys leaders so for the benefit of those that are not involved in the production we are approaching the final leg of preparation and we thought it would be crucial for us to have a prayer session with our kids tmr to bring all of our concerns and hopes to God :):):)
So do spend some time praying with your kids, preferably give each of them a particular group of people to pray for and slowly guide them along and maybe you can use these prayer pointers:
1. Thank God for
b. Seeing everyone thru their respective major exams. For bringing them back safely and pray for an extra portion of your strength and grace for them to carry on for You
c. Bringing us thus far and for being steadfast in your promises even when we stumble
2.
“Look to the LORD and His strength; seek His face always.”
- 1 Chronicles 16:11
Core Team
a. Pray for God to renew them with strength and grace for each new day to carry out the tasks ahead with confidence and dedication
3. Cast/Crew
a. Pray for focussed minds and concentration during rehearsals
b. Rehearsals to run smoothly and be productive
c. For them to find peace and purpose in their hearts as they serve
4.
“For from Him and through Him and for Him are all things. To Him be the glory forever! Amen.”
- Romans 11:36
Directors/Vocal Coaches/Dance choreographers/Band
a. For God to lift them up when they’re stressed, tired or discouraged
b. Motivation and creativity to press on for God
5. TTB (Everyone)
a. Faith to convict us that our purpose in all we do is to bring God glory
b. Attentive and obedient hearts
c. Strength and courage to persevere and sustain one another in love
d. Wisdom and peace that guard our hearts and minds
e. To be sure of our identity, purpose and direction so that we will not be daunted by our fears, sacrifice and trials but can have faith, joy and perseverance
Outreach
f. For our friends to have open hearts and minds
g. Courage to step out and invite

For more recent prayer pointers please refer to the church bulletin :)

Next thing we would be doing would be setting some goals and resolutions for next year since tmr would be our last lesson that we would have with our kids for 2011
1. Bring paper/ stationary for them to write
2. So what they can write about? Basically what they hope to achieve in the coming year
-studies
-CCA
-spirtiually
-service in church/..
-family/ friends (ties?)

5. Pray over the goals that they have set out

4. Then.. Collect all the paper and pass it to cheryl at the end of the lesson den she will help us keep it safely in a box until the last lesson of the next year, when we will reveal it and ask them to share if they managed to achieve it if so how and if not why?

Hi all :)

Here’s the heart of the matter. I think it’ll be good if we could look through it first to get a rough idea of what the lesson will be like.


Heart of the Matter

1. God allows us to make our own choices

2. Because God gives us choices, we must realize that all choices have consequences, both good and bad

3. No matter how many bad choices we’ve made in the past, they are redeemed by one good choice- to follow Jesus

4. Jesus loves you enough to let you choose


Theme verse: Colossians 1:13-14

For He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son He loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.


Lesson start:


Pray!


Determining Your Destiny

Points to take away: Heart of the Matter 1, 2 and 4


Read through the passage and do question 1 with your kids

(Here’s what I think but do add on your own input)

1: Since God desired to spend eternity with us enough to have his own son killed, why doesn’t he just make all of our decisions for us?


The very fact that He sent His son to die on the cross for our sins shows that He loves us- a lot, infinitely. God probably gave us the freedom to choose and make decisions because He wanted us to willingly enter into a loving relationship with Him and not be ‘robots’ under His control (choosing Him would be one of the choices we would have to make).


Genesis 1:26 ‘Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness…’


This shows that when God created us, He didn’t intend for us to be robots, but to be like Him, created in His image.


2: Read Genesis 2:15-17; 3:6 and answer question 2

Remember to highlight to the kids that Adam’s choice to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil was really a choice to disobey God. And because of his choice, there was a consequence- a bad consequence.


The Message of the Two Crosses

Point to take way: Heart of the Matter 3


Read through the passage and do question 3

3: From the verses Matthew 6:24 and 7:13-14, Jesus is saying that we can only make one choice. If we follow the world, then we are not following God and if we follow God, then we cannot possibly follow the world.


We are called to be in this world but not of this world; to live in this world and be a witness for Christ but not to succumb to the temptations of the world and pursue its desires like material wealth etc.

1 John 2:15-17

‘Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world- the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does- comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.’


One Good Decision

Read through the passage and do question 4

I think it might be good to go deeper into some of the options with the kids.


For example the option ‘God is indifferent about our choice, as long as we’re good people.’

You might want to ask your kids what they think good people mean.

I don’t know about you guys but I find this option kind of confusing because it seems to suggest to me that it doesn’t matter what we do at all (good or bad?) as long as at the heart of it all we’re good? Maybe I interpreted it wrongly so if you’re not confused that’s good.

But for me I think I’ll refer my kids to Luke 18:19 ‘“Why do you call me good?” Jesus answered. “No one is good- except God alone.”’

Based on this verse for me, if we’re good people, then we would make choices to follow God, choices that He would want us to make, and I don’t think He’ll be indifferent about us making choices to follow Him- It’s what He wants.


Another option ‘It doesn’t matter what choices we make in life, as long as we make the right choice in the end.’

The one right choice to follow Christ is the most important choice that we have to make. But since (hopefully) most of us have already made this right choice, it is important to remember that we also make the right choices to live our lives for Him after that, to be reflectors for Christ. We have been forgiven of our sins once and for all when we accepted Christ as our Lord and Savior but that doesn’t mean that we don’t have to make right choices anymore and we can continue sinning.


End

Have a time of sharing with your kids.

We have to make choices and decisions everyday. Some choices are obvious and with choices such as cheating in an exam, gossiping etc, we know what the right decisions are and what the wrong ones are. Still, it doesn’t mean we always choose what’s right. There are also choices to do the right things, things that are seemingly right like choosing to serve God. These are right if we do them with the right intention and not for self-interest. So maybe you guys could remind your kids to always commit their decisions to God, walk closely with God so that we’ll know the right choices He

wants us to make and remember to check their hearts when they do something. (you can add more too)


That’s all. I hope it helps and I didn’t go off tangent. Pray for your kids and the upcoming ttb production that all helping out in the production will grow to love and abide in God and love each other. (and pray for each other too, as in leaders)


Have a nice day!

by cher /.